Growing up is never easy. You hold on to things that were. You wonder what's to come. But that night, I think we knew it was time to let go of what had been, and look ahead to what would be. Other days. New days. Days to come. The thing is, we didn't have to hate each other for getting older. We just had to forgive ourselves... for growing up.
--Kevin, The Wonder Years
I've been tagged, so here are my answers.
20 Years Ago....
1. I was 16 years old.
2. I was in the 11th grade.
3. I had a crush on Emily.
4. I was living in Palm Desert, California at 74295 Goleta.
10 Years Ago....
1. I graduated from BYU with a BA in History.
2. I worked at the MTC.
3. I moved to San Diego.
4. My dad died.
5 Years Ago....
1. I was married to Amy.
2. I had 2 kids, Rachel, 3 and Roman, 1.
3. I was in my 2nd year of teaching @ CVHS.
4. My mom died.
3 Years Ago....
1. I finished my MA in Spanish from SDSU.
2. I got a job doing what I always wanted.
3. I packed up my family and moved them across the country to NY.
4. I experienced my first “real” winter.
1 Year Ago....
1. My wife and I separated
2. I had been working at MVCC for 2 years
3. I was still hurting
4. I got my “mojo” back ;)
So far this year....
1. I went to Spain, AGAIN.
2. I’ve met some amazing people.
3. I've been through hell and back
4. Have re-connected with the amazing people I went to high school with.
Yesterday I.....
1. Spent X-mas with my kids
2. Watched “Valkyrie”
3. Tried to sleep in
Today I.....
1. Went shopping
2. Took a HOT shower.
3. Did laundry
4. Spent time with the kids
In the next year I'll.....
1. Teach fewer classes
2. Go to Italy
3. Meet someone who I can spend time with?
4. Attend a conference
Friday, December 26, 2008
Sunday, November 30, 2008
Gracias Presidente Bush
I gassed up today, $1.96/ gallon. I was in shock. I put 9 gallons of gas in and paid less than $18. How is this possible? Back in July I paid $4.17 per gallon. Here’s my theory-
George W. Bush. Yes President Bush is responsible. Ridiculous you say? It makes sense to me; everybody blames him when prices go up, why not give him credit when prices go down? Of course I am not that naïve. I believe this is his way of trying to redeem at least ONE good thing from the past eight years. Here’s my theory. The national average for a gallon of gas on January 20th 2001 was around $1.47 per gallon. Gas will continue to drop until it reaches that price or even lower. So when President Bush bids farewell on January 20th 2009 he will stand there with that goofy grin of his and let us know how the price for gas is the same as it was when he entered. He will think that we are stupid enough to buy it and forget all the crap from the past 8 yrs. The sad thing is that he’ll be right, most of us have bought the BS he’s been shoveling (I include myself here) and there are at least 27% or so (whatever his approval rating is) who still do. Of course the oil companies are in on this. He is buddies with all the oil companies who I’m sure don’t mind doing this little favor. Despite the sorry state of the economy oil companies are always turning record profits so providing cheap gas isn’t hurting them that much. Ridiculous you say? Paranoid? Maybe, maybe not. So buy up all the gas you can, save it in those red containers because I am almost certain that on January 21st 2009-prices will go up again.
George W. Bush. Yes President Bush is responsible. Ridiculous you say? It makes sense to me; everybody blames him when prices go up, why not give him credit when prices go down? Of course I am not that naïve. I believe this is his way of trying to redeem at least ONE good thing from the past eight years. Here’s my theory. The national average for a gallon of gas on January 20th 2001 was around $1.47 per gallon. Gas will continue to drop until it reaches that price or even lower. So when President Bush bids farewell on January 20th 2009 he will stand there with that goofy grin of his and let us know how the price for gas is the same as it was when he entered. He will think that we are stupid enough to buy it and forget all the crap from the past 8 yrs. The sad thing is that he’ll be right, most of us have bought the BS he’s been shoveling (I include myself here) and there are at least 27% or so (whatever his approval rating is) who still do. Of course the oil companies are in on this. He is buddies with all the oil companies who I’m sure don’t mind doing this little favor. Despite the sorry state of the economy oil companies are always turning record profits so providing cheap gas isn’t hurting them that much. Ridiculous you say? Paranoid? Maybe, maybe not. So buy up all the gas you can, save it in those red containers because I am almost certain that on January 21st 2009-prices will go up again.
Thursday, November 27, 2008
Obama in by Christmas
Ok so Obama won the election. He mentioned in his acceptance address that there is only one administration at a time which I feel is a very honorable and noble sentiment. Of course he is preparing for the transition naming various staff members and of the course the rumors about Hillary, Bill Richardson and all that show us that while he is doing something he will not overstep his bounds. Unfortunately the current administration has decided to quit. Seriously, George Bush has given a new meaning to the term “lame duck”. Back when I was a missionary in Argentina, we called it being “trunky”. George W. Bush is the epitome of “trunkiness”. I am honestly surprised to still see him in Washington, I figured he’d already be in Crawford cutting trees and huntin. OK so what to do for the next 6 weeks or so? Obama really can’t do anything and Bush won’t do anything. We still have a financial mess. Foreclosures, business failures, the economy SUCKS, crises around the world. Wars going on in Iraq and Afghanistan: and now this mess in India. What to do? Let me propose something. For those Obama supporters, spread the word and get him in sooner. For those die hard conservatives, seriously, if Bush does this he will be remembered for doing something for the good of the country ahead of his own interests (for once). Have Dick Cheney resign immediately. I’m sure like Bush he’s doing nothing already, send him back to Wyoming so he can hunt pheasants, ducks, and lawyers-whatever. Then appoint Obama VP. After a day or so, George W. Bush resigns. The Obama Administration begins. Smooth transition, everyone benefits: So simple yet so genius. It’s not as if the Republicans haven’t done this before (Nixon-Agnew-Ford) to get out of trouble. You would think that they would be anxious to dump all these problems on the Democrats and begin regrouping for 2010 (mid-term elections) and of course for 2012. So write to your Congressperson, Senator, Oprah, Rush, O’Reilly, Hannity, Arnold, SNL, The View, whoever and let’s get Obama in by Christmas.
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Ok so I’m a dad. I have 3 kids-Rachel, Roman, and Tommy; ages 7, 6, 3 respectively. I can appreciate the dilemma most parents go through in wanting the best for your kids and wanting to provide them with the best opportunities possible. I want my children to succeed and be happy. Of course at their age they are not completely aware of all the good and bad that is out there so I do my best to help and protect them. I also realize that the day will come when I will no longer do that and that I must let my kids decide for themselves. I must let them stumble and make their own mistakes. I can only hope that they will learn from them and that they will know that I am here to support them. This message is directed to those parents who refuse to acknowledge this. And there are soooooo many out there it is ridiculous. I teach at the college level. And I still have parents calling me asking me to excuse their kids’ lateness, absence etc. I had a mother call and say she needed to schedule an appointment for her son. How old is the son? 19. 19 years old. I kindly explained that since he was an ADULT, he needed to contact me himself. She became rather upset, telling me that he was still immature and didn’t know what he wanted so she was going to make sure he didn’t make any mistakes in scheduling classes. Hmmm OK. Well I told her that when she finished feeding him and changing his diaper she could bring him down to my office during my office hours. (Not really) but it got me thinking, how incapable is this kid? Do I really want someone like this in my classes? Someone who needs his mommy to do things for him?
I guess I have little patience for people like this because
1. I was the first in my family to attend college. I had no previous experience in the whole application process. No experience with financial aid. Parents who did not speak English well. Parents who did not go to college, in fact they never went to high school. I had no experience in the whole registration, picking majors, classes etc. I think I did pretty good. So how come someone with English-speaking, college-educated parents can’t do something simple like register for classes without mommy?
2. My father died when I was 25. My mother before I was 30. I pretty much have had to figure out a lot of the “grown up” things on my own. Yes I have had great advice from people and I had a good wife for 7 ½ yrs who helped me out too but having mommy or daddy hold my hand? Yeah right.
3. I knew what I wanted. I knew what classes would get me there. I can NEVER imagine a situation where I would let someone else dictate my education for me; whether parents, counselors, spouse whatever. So I cannot understand how someone can sit there and allow mommy to choose classes. Even worse, someone who sits there and lets ME choose their classes. ME what the heck do I know? (I know a lot but seriously I still shouldn’t be picking your classes)
Saturday, November 1, 2008
Gay marriage killed the dinosaurs
I took this from a group here Facebook. These reasons are hilarious but the sad thing is that there are probably people out there who really do believe them.
Top 13 Reasons Gay Marriage is Bad:
13. Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms. Just like we haven't adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans.
12. Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That's why our society has no single parents.
11. Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That's why we have only one religion in America.
10. Obviously gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.
9. Straight marriages are valid because they produce children. Gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn't be allowed to marry because our orphanages aren't full yet, and the world needs more children.
8. Gay marriage should be decided by the people and their elected representatives, not the courts. The framers checked the courts, which represent mainstream public opinion, with legislatures created to protect the rights of minorities from the tyranny of the majority. Interference by courts in this matter is inappropriate, just as it has been every time the courts have tried to hold back legislatures pushing for civil rights.
7. Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed; the sanctity of Britany Spears' 55-hour just-for-fun marriage would be destroyed.
6. Civil unions, providing most of the same benefits as marriage with a different name are better, because "separate but equal" institutions are a good way to satisfy the demands of uppity minority groups.
5. Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn't changed at all; women are still property, blacks still can't marry whites, and divorce is still illegal.
4. Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract.
3. Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.
2. Being gay is not natural. Real Americans always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, and air conditioning.
1. METEORS and VOLCANOES. Those did not kill the Dinosaurs--gay marriage did.
Top 13 Reasons Gay Marriage is Bad:
13. Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms. Just like we haven't adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans.
12. Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That's why our society has no single parents.
11. Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That's why we have only one religion in America.
10. Obviously gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.
9. Straight marriages are valid because they produce children. Gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn't be allowed to marry because our orphanages aren't full yet, and the world needs more children.
8. Gay marriage should be decided by the people and their elected representatives, not the courts. The framers checked the courts, which represent mainstream public opinion, with legislatures created to protect the rights of minorities from the tyranny of the majority. Interference by courts in this matter is inappropriate, just as it has been every time the courts have tried to hold back legislatures pushing for civil rights.
7. Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed; the sanctity of Britany Spears' 55-hour just-for-fun marriage would be destroyed.
6. Civil unions, providing most of the same benefits as marriage with a different name are better, because "separate but equal" institutions are a good way to satisfy the demands of uppity minority groups.
5. Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn't changed at all; women are still property, blacks still can't marry whites, and divorce is still illegal.
4. Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract.
3. Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.
2. Being gay is not natural. Real Americans always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, and air conditioning.
1. METEORS and VOLCANOES. Those did not kill the Dinosaurs--gay marriage did.
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Friday, July 18, 2008
rambling
Well where to start, I have been a rather bad blogger but truthfully I lead a rather boring life so there is not a whole lot to talk about.
I am currently teaching a summer class, only 10 students so it is very nice. Sometimes I wish the entire year were a summer schedule but alas...
Due to the high gas prices and the sorry state of the economy I have decided that I need to cut back on many things in order to be able to live.
1. I borrow from the library instead of Netflix. I get stuff free at the college library, since there's hardly any students around there's a great choice and even though it's only supposed to be a 4 day borrow period they never charge me anything if I keep the movies a day or two longer because I'm faculty and they like me.
2. I coupon clip and stock up at sales--yeah I guess one should always do this but I am even more conscious now.
3. With gas at $4.15 gallon (here in NY) and the proud owner of a minivan, I have decided to drive as little as possible. I walk when I can (including to work) and I have bought a bus pass. One thing I came to realize during my time in Spain is how overly dependent we are on cars in the US. In other parts of the world people have no problems walking 2, 3, 4 or even 5 miles to get somewhere and public transportation is readily available even in small towns. I think we need to look to Europe on how to do things right.
And BTW, over the last month I have spent $110 on gas-TOTAL. Yup for an entire month. I've also dropped 11lbs from the walking.
Speaking about the sorry state of the economy that's something else that hit home when I was in Spain. Just how weak the dollar is abroad. One does not see it unless one compares it to something like the Euro. Last year when I was there it was 1.33E=$1.00. This past May 1.74E=$1.oo--What does this mean? Well last year if I spent 10 euros it equaled $13. This year 10 euros equaled $17. For the people there prices remained the same, for us things have risen. As one hears the news; over 340,000 home foreclosures this year, major banks failing, businesses closing, major companies cutting jobs, the stock market falling, rising fuel and food costs--it all seems surreal. I just wish our idiot president and his cronies would admit that things are messed up so something could be done about it. (And no offshore oil drilling really isn't the answer--that's a band-aid, we need major surgery here).
I am currently teaching a summer class, only 10 students so it is very nice. Sometimes I wish the entire year were a summer schedule but alas...
Due to the high gas prices and the sorry state of the economy I have decided that I need to cut back on many things in order to be able to live.
1. I borrow from the library instead of Netflix. I get stuff free at the college library, since there's hardly any students around there's a great choice and even though it's only supposed to be a 4 day borrow period they never charge me anything if I keep the movies a day or two longer because I'm faculty and they like me.
2. I coupon clip and stock up at sales--yeah I guess one should always do this but I am even more conscious now.
3. With gas at $4.15 gallon (here in NY) and the proud owner of a minivan, I have decided to drive as little as possible. I walk when I can (including to work) and I have bought a bus pass. One thing I came to realize during my time in Spain is how overly dependent we are on cars in the US. In other parts of the world people have no problems walking 2, 3, 4 or even 5 miles to get somewhere and public transportation is readily available even in small towns. I think we need to look to Europe on how to do things right.
And BTW, over the last month I have spent $110 on gas-TOTAL. Yup for an entire month. I've also dropped 11lbs from the walking.
Speaking about the sorry state of the economy that's something else that hit home when I was in Spain. Just how weak the dollar is abroad. One does not see it unless one compares it to something like the Euro. Last year when I was there it was 1.33E=$1.00. This past May 1.74E=$1.oo--What does this mean? Well last year if I spent 10 euros it equaled $13. This year 10 euros equaled $17. For the people there prices remained the same, for us things have risen. As one hears the news; over 340,000 home foreclosures this year, major banks failing, businesses closing, major companies cutting jobs, the stock market falling, rising fuel and food costs--it all seems surreal. I just wish our idiot president and his cronies would admit that things are messed up so something could be done about it. (And no offshore oil drilling really isn't the answer--that's a band-aid, we need major surgery here).
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Welcome to last place--
What does one do when the woman you thought you loved lets you know that she has been deceiving you since the day you met??
To every guy that regrets hurting or losing her.
To every guy who knows which girl he wants.
To every guy that's said, "You're beautiful."
To every guy that was never too busy to drive across town (or across the state)( or across the country ) to see her.
To every guy that gives flowers and a card when she is sick.
To every guy who has given her flowers just because.
To every guy that said he would die for her.
To every guy that really would.
To every guy that did what she wanted to do.
To every guy that cried in front of her.
To every guy that she cried in front of.
To every guy that holds hands with her.
To every guy that kisses her with meaning.
To every guy that hugs her when she's sad.
To every guy that hugs her for no reason at all.
To every guy who would give their jacket up for her.
To every guy that calls to make sure she got home safe.
To every guy that would sit and wait hours to see her, even if they could only spend a few minutes together.
To every guy that would give his seat up.
To every guy that just wants to cuddle.
To every guy that reassured her that she was beautiful no matter what. And honestly believed what he said.
To every guy who told his secrets to her.
To every guy that tried to show how much he cared through every word and every breath.
To every guy that thought "maybe this could be the one".
To every guy that believed in her dreams.
To every guy that would have done anything so she could achieve them.
To every guy that never laughed at her when she told him her dreams.
To every guy that walked her to her car.
To every guy that wasn't just trying to get laid.
To every guy that gave his heart and still has a piece missing.
To every guy who prays that she is happy even if he is not the one that makes her that way.
To every guy who doesnt care how far away she lives, and will still date her because it's her.
To every guy who cares the most about how she feels, even when she breaks your heart.
This is one bulletin for you...
Not many girls appreciate nice guys anymore... And because of this, there are not many left out there...
If you are a nice guy repost this with "Nice guys finish last."
If you are a girl that thinks every guy should try to acomplish even a few of these repost this with: "To the nice guys left."
To every guy that regrets hurting or losing her.
To every guy who knows which girl he wants.
To every guy that's said, "You're beautiful."
To every guy that was never too busy to drive across town (or across the state)( or across the country ) to see her.
To every guy that gives flowers and a card when she is sick.
To every guy who has given her flowers just because.
To every guy that said he would die for her.
To every guy that really would.
To every guy that did what she wanted to do.
To every guy that cried in front of her.
To every guy that she cried in front of.
To every guy that holds hands with her.
To every guy that kisses her with meaning.
To every guy that hugs her when she's sad.
To every guy that hugs her for no reason at all.
To every guy who would give their jacket up for her.
To every guy that calls to make sure she got home safe.
To every guy that would sit and wait hours to see her, even if they could only spend a few minutes together.
To every guy that would give his seat up.
To every guy that just wants to cuddle.
To every guy that reassured her that she was beautiful no matter what. And honestly believed what he said.
To every guy who told his secrets to her.
To every guy that tried to show how much he cared through every word and every breath.
To every guy that thought "maybe this could be the one".
To every guy that believed in her dreams.
To every guy that would have done anything so she could achieve them.
To every guy that never laughed at her when she told him her dreams.
To every guy that walked her to her car.
To every guy that wasn't just trying to get laid.
To every guy that gave his heart and still has a piece missing.
To every guy who prays that she is happy even if he is not the one that makes her that way.
To every guy who doesnt care how far away she lives, and will still date her because it's her.
To every guy who cares the most about how she feels, even when she breaks your heart.
This is one bulletin for you...
Not many girls appreciate nice guys anymore... And because of this, there are not many left out there...
If you are a nice guy repost this with "Nice guys finish last."
If you are a girl that thinks every guy should try to acomplish even a few of these repost this with: "To the nice guys left."
Thursday, May 29, 2008
Spain
Ok so it has been a while. But it was the end of the semester and I had a trip to Spain to plan. I returned late last night and am reflecting on my experiences. I must say that I have never felt so relaxed and so stressed at the same time. Since I was a group leader I had to be semi responsible for groups of 18-19 yr olds who were in a country where the drinking age was 18. Needless to say I became the most hated person in the group. On the bright side I enjoyed being in Madrid and Seville again. In addition I also visited Toledo, Consuegra, Granada, Ronda, and a much longer stay in Cordoba.
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
I stole this from Jess
Lists
I saw this on Jess's blog and decided to steal it:
Places I have lived:
1. Palm Desert, CA
2. Indio, CA
3. Palm Desert, CA
4. Provo, UT
5. San Pedro, BsAs, Argentina
6. Tortuguitas, BsAs, Argentina
7. Pablo Nogues, BsAs, Argentina
8. El Talar, BsAs, Argentina
9. Buenos Aires
10. San Nicolas, BsAs, Argentina
11. Palm Desert, CA
12. Provo, UT
13. San Diego, CA
14. Provo,UT
15. Romoland, CA
16. Palm Desert, CA
17. Indio, CA
18. Utica, NY
19. New Hartford, NY
Next -?????????????
Places I have worked:
1. I worked for my dad growing up.
2. Azteca Furniture
3. Missionary Training Center (technically BYU)
4. Meeting Services Inc.
5. Greenhaven Press/Lucent Books (later bought out by the Gale Group)
6. BYU Library
7. Research Assistant to Robert Strong (BYU)
8. Freelance Editor
9. Coachella Valley Unified School District
10. Mohawk Valley Community College
Friday, February 29, 2008
February 29th
Ok since today only comes around once every 4 years I figured I'd better post something right?
This past week has gone relatively well. One thing that I am looking forward to is May, I get to take a group of students to Spain. Right now that is what I need and am anxiously awaiting the time.
Health wise I've been having terrible stomach pains so I saw the Dr this week. Turns out to be gallstones--(eww) so she put me on a non-fat, non-fried food, non-dairy regimen. Not surprisingly the pains are gone. Those that know me know that this eliminates 2 of my major food groups so we'll see how much longer I can last. My clothes is beginning to get looser so on the plus side I may get a new wardrobe out of all this :)
I had a much needed boost to the ego today. A female student who missed class this week came to my office to see what she had missed. As we were talking she noticed the pictures of my kids and commented
"Are those your kids?"
"Yes" I said
"I didn't know you were married"
"I'm divorced actually"
We continued talking and when we finished she mentioned--"you know I graduate this May, just in case you ever want to hang out or something" and smiled.
Wow I thought, maybe this whole divorce bit isn't so bad after all.
This past week has gone relatively well. One thing that I am looking forward to is May, I get to take a group of students to Spain. Right now that is what I need and am anxiously awaiting the time.
Health wise I've been having terrible stomach pains so I saw the Dr this week. Turns out to be gallstones--(eww) so she put me on a non-fat, non-fried food, non-dairy regimen. Not surprisingly the pains are gone. Those that know me know that this eliminates 2 of my major food groups so we'll see how much longer I can last. My clothes is beginning to get looser so on the plus side I may get a new wardrobe out of all this :)
I had a much needed boost to the ego today. A female student who missed class this week came to my office to see what she had missed. As we were talking she noticed the pictures of my kids and commented
"Are those your kids?"
"Yes" I said
"I didn't know you were married"
"I'm divorced actually"
We continued talking and when we finished she mentioned--"you know I graduate this May, just in case you ever want to hang out or something" and smiled.
Wow I thought, maybe this whole divorce bit isn't so bad after all.
Thursday, February 21, 2008
Winter blues
OK so I have been relatively lazy recently, it mainly has to do with the fact that I have been really sick for a while. It seems as if I can't shake whatever bug I have. On the bright side I have lost 7 lbs this past week which I suppose is always a good thing.
At this moment I am sitting in my class watching them take a test I am giving 3 more tests tomorrow so it has been a relative easy week which is what I have needed. The only issue now of course is having to grade them all but that really isn't all that tough, just time-consuming.
I have recently been examining my life and what it is I want now. I find myself very confused because this is soooo not what I expected things to be like. I do know one thing, I am through with women for a while. Since the separation from my wife I have been involved with 2 women, both relationships have ended rather poorly. Maybe I'm just out of practice, maybe New York women are different from those out West, maybe I really am difficult, maybe I picked the wrong women; Whatever the reason I have decided to focus on my kids and my career. My kids appreciate all the time I spend with them and are actually happy to be at daddy's house as often as they are.
It has been REALLY cold this past week. It is usually at this point in the season when most people are ready for the Spring. This winter has been relatively mild but I must agree with most people, I too am ready for the Spring. The only bright spot is that right now most winter gear is on clearance so I have been able to find all kids of clothes for 75% off. Just yesterday I bought two new hats for .75 cents and some new gloves for $5 each pair.
Maybe I'll go shopping tonight--hasta luego.
At this moment I am sitting in my class watching them take a test I am giving 3 more tests tomorrow so it has been a relative easy week which is what I have needed. The only issue now of course is having to grade them all but that really isn't all that tough, just time-consuming.
I have recently been examining my life and what it is I want now. I find myself very confused because this is soooo not what I expected things to be like. I do know one thing, I am through with women for a while. Since the separation from my wife I have been involved with 2 women, both relationships have ended rather poorly. Maybe I'm just out of practice, maybe New York women are different from those out West, maybe I really am difficult, maybe I picked the wrong women; Whatever the reason I have decided to focus on my kids and my career. My kids appreciate all the time I spend with them and are actually happy to be at daddy's house as often as they are.
It has been REALLY cold this past week. It is usually at this point in the season when most people are ready for the Spring. This winter has been relatively mild but I must agree with most people, I too am ready for the Spring. The only bright spot is that right now most winter gear is on clearance so I have been able to find all kids of clothes for 75% off. Just yesterday I bought two new hats for .75 cents and some new gloves for $5 each pair.
Maybe I'll go shopping tonight--hasta luego.
Friday, February 8, 2008
Are these instructions necessary?
OK so I have a google account, igoogle specifically, you can program it to display any number of things like the weather, local movies, and of course your gmail. Well I also have it set to display a type of "How to" section--you know google's version of Wikipedia of sorts with instructions on how to do random stuff--
One of today's posts was "How to get pregnant"--hmm as I recall that wasn't very hard (3 kids within the 1st 4 yrs of marriage--not bad considering my ex-wife is a Lesbian), heck my ex constantly was trying to NOT get pregnant--
but nevertheless here are the instructions:
from wikiHow - The How to Manual That You Can Edit
For some people, avoiding pregnancy is difficult; but for others, conceiving a child can be elusive and frustrating. There are only six days per monthly cycle during which a woman can conceive[1] and there are many factors which can affect fertility and conception. Here's how to increase the likelihood of pregnancy.
One of today's posts was "How to get pregnant"--hmm as I recall that wasn't very hard (3 kids within the 1st 4 yrs of marriage--not bad considering my ex-wife is a Lesbian), heck my ex constantly was trying to NOT get pregnant--
but nevertheless here are the instructions:
How to Get Pregnant
from wikiHow - The How to Manual That You Can Edit
For some people, avoiding pregnancy is difficult; but for others, conceiving a child can be elusive and frustrating. There are only six days per monthly cycle during which a woman can conceive[1] and there are many factors which can affect fertility and conception. Here's how to increase the likelihood of pregnancy.
Steps
- Discontinue any form of birth control. Some birth control methods have a longer "readjustment" period after stopping than others, so the time it takes for a woman's body to be again ready to become pregnant varies. For example, women using Depo-Provera, an injectable contraceptive, usually do not get pregnant until 9-10 months after their last injection.[2] On the other hand, ceasing to use barrier methods has an immediate effect.
- Make healthy lifestyle choices. Maintain a healthy weight, exercise regularly, eat healthy foods, and keep stress under control. Illness and stress can both affect the timing of ovulation, making it difficult to predict.[3]
- Both partners should eat a well-balanced diet, including foods high in anti-oxidants (e.g. fruits and vegetables) and vitamins, and consider eating less seafood, as it is associated with increasing blood levels of mercury, which has been linked to fertility problems.[4] Consumption of pesticides may also be linked to pregnancy difficulties[5] so now may be a good time for couples to choose organic foods. For women, taking folic acid (vitamin B9) supplements before trying to conceive to reduce the risk of spina bifida and other neural tube defects.[6]
- Visit a doctor for pre-conception planning to identify any necessary lifestyle changes, as well as to check if any of the medications either partner is taking can decrease chances of pregnancy or damage a developing fetus. There may also be vaccines needed to prevent illness or defects in an unborn child.
- Stop smoking. Tobacco affects cervical mucous in ways that may obstruct fertilization.[7] Smoking also reduces sperm count and sperm health.[8] Exposure to second-hand smoke can be just as counterproductive.[9]
- Sleep better. Sleep deprivation results in lower levels of the hormone leptin, without which ovulation may be affected.[10]
- Quit caffeine (or at least cut back). A recent study has shown that consuming more than 200 mg of caffeine (approximately two cups of coffee, but it can come from other sources like tea and soda as well) on a daily basis during the first trimester of pregnancy can significantly increase the likelihood of miscarriage.[11] Since you don't know instantly when you're pregnant, you may want to consider quitting caffeine or reducing your intake to, say, a single cup of coffee per day.
- Both partners should eat a well-balanced diet, including foods high in anti-oxidants (e.g. fruits and vegetables) and vitamins, and consider eating less seafood, as it is associated with increasing blood levels of mercury, which has been linked to fertility problems.[4] Consumption of pesticides may also be linked to pregnancy difficulties[5] so now may be a good time for couples to choose organic foods. For women, taking folic acid (vitamin B9) supplements before trying to conceive to reduce the risk of spina bifida and other neural tube defects.[6]
- Record the first day and the length of menstruation every month.
- If menstruation consistently starts every 28 days, you can reasonably assume that ovulation occurs 14 days after the first day of menstruation.[12]
- If menstrual cycles are more than 28 days long but are consistent, subtract 18 from the average number of days in your cycles. For example, if menstruation begins reliably every 35 days, the difference is 17. On that day in the cycle is when ovulation can be expected to take place.[13]
- If cycles are short, irregular or unpredictable, this method won't work.[14] Move on to the next steps.
- If menstruation consistently starts every 28 days, you can reasonably assume that ovulation occurs 14 days after the first day of menstruation.[12]
- Record your basal body temperature (BBT) daily. BBT is your body's temperature when you're fully at rest and can be measured with a thermometer specifically labeled for basal temperature.
- Make a graph on graph paper or on the computer, with dates on the bottom and basal temperature on the side. You can find and print fertility charts online, as well as sign up for a fertility charting service.
- Look for a gradual or sudden rise in temperature (between 0.5 and 1.6 degrees F).[15] Fertility is highest during the two to three days before your basal temperature rises[16] so if you can observe any month-to-month patterns in when your temperature rises, you can predict the best time to conceive.
- Make a graph on graph paper or on the computer, with dates on the bottom and basal temperature on the side. You can find and print fertility charts online, as well as sign up for a fertility charting service.
- Observe changes in cervical mucus daily. At the beginning of a menstrual cycle, it's sparse, tacky, and dense; when ovulation is near, it starts becoming more slippery and plentiful, resembling raw egg white.[17] It gets like this in order to help the sperm reach the egg.[18] To check your cervical mucous, wash your hands, rub some toilet paper or your fingers over the opening of the vagina, examine the color and consistency of the mucous, and write it down.[19]
- Checking cervical mucous can reinforce observations about ovulation gathered in other steps. 22 out of 100 women practicing only this method for one year will get pregnant. It'll be less effective for women who naturally do produce very little mucous, or who use feminine hygiene products and douches.[20] Checking right after showering, bathing, swimming, or intercourse can also make this method less accurate.[21]
- If you're comfortable with it, you can also observe the position of your cervix to determine whether you are ovulating. Wash your hands, insert two fingers, and feel the end of the cervix. If it's hard and dry, like the tip of a nose, you haven't ovulated yet. During ovulation, the cervix will shift higher and feel softer and wetter.[22]
- Checking cervical mucous can reinforce observations about ovulation gathered in other steps. 22 out of 100 women practicing only this method for one year will get pregnant. It'll be less effective for women who naturally do produce very little mucous, or who use feminine hygiene products and douches.[20] Checking right after showering, bathing, swimming, or intercourse can also make this method less accurate.[21]
- Test your urine with an ovulation monitoring kit. These can be purchased over the counter and work by detecting the surge in hormones that takes place right before ovulation. Follow the instructions that come with the kit carefully. This method can be expensive, and is best used after the previous steps have been followed (see Warnings below) but have the benefit of giving you advance notice.
- Try to conceive based on predicted ovulation. Have intercourse at least once a day in the days leading up to and during ovulation.[23] Have intercourse at least 2-3 times per week when ovulation is not predicted, just in case.[24] Don't refrain from intercourse because of concerns over sperm counts being depleted. While sperm count may be lowered by increased frequency of intercourse, there is still statistically a better chance of pregnancy if the couple tries to conceive more often.[25] • Get in position. While it hasn't been scientifically proven, it's generally thought that positions which place the sperm close to the cervix are more conducive to pregnancy, specifically the "missionary position" with a pillow under the woman's hips. Remaining in bed for at least a half hour after intercourse may also increase the chances of sperm reaching the egg.[26]• Enjoy your time together. Trying too hard to get pregnant, especially by strictly following a schedule, can cause stress and reduce physical and emotional intimacy between you and your partner. Many couples recommend being creative with intercourse and keeping it lighthearted and fun.[27]
- Take a pregnancy test if you miss a period. Wait at least 28 days from the day you were supposed to get your period before using a home pregnancy test, or else you may get a false negative result.[28] A blood test administered by a doctor, however, can be taken as soon as a period is missed without any sacrifices in accuracy. Consult a doctor if both partners are in their early 30s or younger and in good health have not conceived after a year[29] plus the expected recovery time from a birth control method. Those who are older, experience menstruation cycles that are longer than 35 days, or have reason to suspect fertility issues may wish to visit a doctor sooner.
Tips
- Just because a previous child was conceived quickly doesn't mean any following pregnancies will be just as easy to come by. As a woman gets older, the likelihood of conception decreases.[30]
- Avoid the following:[31]
- vaginal sprays and scented tampons can result in a pH imbalance in the vagina
- artificial lubricants, vegetable oils, and glycerin can kill off sperm
- douching alters the normal acidity of the vagina and may wash away the cervical mucus that is required to transport the sperm
- vaginal sprays and scented tampons can result in a pH imbalance in the vagina
- Beware pregnancy myths:[32]
- Drinking coffee is not proven to decrease rates of conception. However, a recent study indicates that drinking too much caffeine during pregnancy may increase the risk of a miscarriage.[33]
- Cough medicine will not increase your chances of getting pregnant.
- A man can wear briefs without decreasing his sperm count.
- Drinking coffee is not proven to decrease rates of conception. However, a recent study indicates that drinking too much caffeine during pregnancy may increase the risk of a miscarriage.[33]
Warnings
- Ovulation monitoring kits can be so specific about timing that you may miss the mark by concentrating your conception efforts into a very narrow time defined by the kit.[34] The pressure associated with using these kits can also result in stress, which will not help the chances of pregnancy.[35]
- Make sure that you and your partner are disease and infection free before stopping any barrier methods of birth control.
Related wikiHows
- How to Take Your Basal Body Temperature
- How to Increase Your Fertility
- How to Know if You are Pregnant
- How to Announce Your Pregnancy
Sources and Citations
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Sick day
So I woke up with whatever illness little Roman had this past week. I debated on whether to go in or not since I hate missing work cause then I need to rearrange my entire syllabus. Then I checked and it turns out that I have nearly 234 hours of sick time--that comes out to about 35 days or so. I am definitely taking the day off. It seems like my students don't mind anyways so I will be resting today.
Sunday, February 3, 2008
Yo no hablo Español
It's been a while but since it has been the beginning of a new semester I have been busy. Lately my kids have shown an interest in speaking Spanish. This has actually come as quite a surprise because their mom is white (non-Spanish speaker), they are pretty much surrounded by all English with the exception of Dora and Diego. Well My daughter Rachel has just recently realized that there are different ways to communicate and has been slowly asking how to say things in Spanish. This is a surprise because I recall growing up actually being a little ashamed of my Hispanic heritage. I grew up in a predominantly white area and my parents didn't speak English so often my siblings and I were their interpreters. Needless to say that the people around me often found this amusing (even those who I considered friends come to think about it) so trying my best to fit in I tried to use as little Spanish as possible in public. Of course it wasn't till later in life that I realized what an advantage I had being fluent in two languages but as a youth it was hard to see. Plus having grown up in Southern California being Mexican was occasionally looked down upon (still is really). In fact I recall Mexican jokes being told in front of me by Church leaders, I tried my best to laugh it off but thinking about it now is really beginning to piss me off. Hence why I am so proud of my daughter, well within the past two weeks I have tried to speak only Spanish to her. She can't always answer in Spanish but she can understand what I am saying about 80% of the time. For example this morning--
Rachel: Dad
Me:¿Qué quieres?
Rachel: Can I have some chips?
Me:Está bien.
Rachel: Where are they daddy?
Me: En la cocina, usa un plato.
She came back with some Doritos in a bowl.
Not to be outdone, little Roman has asked (usually emphatically) that all his DVDs be played in Spanish and he too is beginning to communicate in Spanish. He knows his colors and numbers till about 20 or so and of course simple words like hello, thank you, please etc.
I know this will tick off many Conservative right-wing fools out there but first- please realize that a second language is an advantage to anyone and second that language should be Spanish. You aren't getting rid of us no matter how hard you try. A wall won't do it. You won't be able to deport all 12 million--heck you still can't find Osama. Plus I really can't imagine some white person spending all day picking lettuce or oranges. Since you really do need to face reality, take lessons from my daughter, start learning some Spanish.
Rachel: Dad
Me:¿Qué quieres?
Rachel: Can I have some chips?
Me:Está bien.
Rachel: Where are they daddy?
Me: En la cocina, usa un plato.
She came back with some Doritos in a bowl.
Not to be outdone, little Roman has asked (usually emphatically) that all his DVDs be played in Spanish and he too is beginning to communicate in Spanish. He knows his colors and numbers till about 20 or so and of course simple words like hello, thank you, please etc.
I know this will tick off many Conservative right-wing fools out there but first- please realize that a second language is an advantage to anyone and second that language should be Spanish. You aren't getting rid of us no matter how hard you try. A wall won't do it. You won't be able to deport all 12 million--heck you still can't find Osama. Plus I really can't imagine some white person spending all day picking lettuce or oranges. Since you really do need to face reality, take lessons from my daughter, start learning some Spanish.
Saturday, January 19, 2008
The big 3
Friday, January 18, 2008
Here are some pictures of my oldest son, Roman. He is 5 but turns 6 in April. He loves to have his picture taken and is an extremely talented artist. As you can see he is just an all around happy little boy.
My ex hates this shirt because she says she hates having her children be walking billboards--so I went and bought a Gap sweatshirt too!!
My ex hates this shirt because she says she hates having her children be walking billboards--so I went and bought a Gap sweatshirt too!!
Thursday, January 17, 2008
Dante
I began reading parts of Dante's Inferno the other day and came across a phrase that just sums all that I am feeling and what my life is like right now--
"Abandon all hope ye who enter here"
I especially want to make a poster and put it on my office door, you know, just to give students a good scare.
"Abandon all hope ye who enter here"
I especially want to make a poster and put it on my office door, you know, just to give students a good scare.
Friday, January 11, 2008
Un chiste en Castellano
If you are fluent in Spanish you will get these jokes, if not--well lo siento because splaining it to you would ruin them.
Nuevo hospital Japonés "AKI TEMATO" recién abierto en Miami!
Directorio Médico :
Director: Dr. Kienkarajo Mekura
Urgencias: Dr. Takurao Yamimito
Dermatología: Dr. Tukuero Taduro
Endoscopía: Dr. Temeto Tubito
Fisioterapia: Dra. Tesuda Toito
Gastroenterología: Dr. Tesobo Tupanza
Ginecología: Dra. Tesano Tukosita y el Dr. Yositoko Tuboyo
Inmunología: Dr. Tekito Bichito
Laboratorio: Sra. Temira Tukaka
Patología Mamaria: Srta. Taprieto Tuteta
Diagnósticos: Dra. Tamal Pakebea
Neumonología: Dra. Tutose Mufuete
Cirugía Plástica: Dr. Suturo Tukoko , Dra. Tarrota Tuteta y Dra. Tesaca Manteca
Odontología: Dr. Tekito Lakarie
Oftalmología: Dr. Temiro Losojo
Otorrinolaringología: Dr. Tesako Tumokito
Microbiología: Dr. Yomiro Enchikito
Pediatría: Dr. Yosikuro Karajito
Proctología:Dr.Temiro Tuano y Dra. Tukulito Sakayama
Psiquiatría: Dr. Taloko Entukokito
Radiología: Dr. Tomemo Lafoto
Reumatología: Dr. Tabiejo Tuweso
Urología: Dr. Tupito Sekae
Me estoy riendo mientras escribo--
Nuevo hospital Japonés "AKI TEMATO" recién abierto en Miami!
Directorio Médico :
Director: Dr. Kienkarajo Mekura
Urgencias: Dr. Takurao Yamimito
Dermatología: Dr. Tukuero Taduro
Endoscopía: Dr. Temeto Tubito
Fisioterapia: Dra. Tesuda Toito
Gastroenterología: Dr. Tesobo Tupanza
Ginecología: Dra. Tesano Tukosita y el Dr. Yositoko Tuboyo
Inmunología: Dr. Tekito Bichito
Laboratorio: Sra. Temira Tukaka
Patología Mamaria: Srta. Taprieto Tuteta
Diagnósticos: Dra. Tamal Pakebea
Neumonología: Dra. Tutose Mufuete
Cirugía Plástica: Dr. Suturo Tukoko , Dra. Tarrota Tuteta y Dra. Tesaca Manteca
Odontología: Dr. Tekito Lakarie
Oftalmología: Dr. Temiro Losojo
Otorrinolaringología: Dr. Tesako Tumokito
Microbiología: Dr. Yomiro Enchikito
Pediatría: Dr. Yosikuro Karajito
Proctología:Dr.Temiro Tuano y Dra. Tukulito Sakayama
Psiquiatría: Dr. Taloko Entukokito
Radiología: Dr. Tomemo Lafoto
Reumatología: Dr. Tabiejo Tuweso
Urología: Dr. Tupito Sekae
Me estoy riendo mientras escribo--
Facebook/Myspace
This past week I spent a bit of time on the internet. I have a facebook profile and so I decided to look people up. Currently most of my links are to students and former students. I find that sending out announcements often is easier if I just post it to facebook since they usually check that more often than they do their school emails. Anyways I looked up old friends and was very lucky in that I was able to find at least a dozen people that I had lost touch with. If you don't have a facebook profile or even a myspace, I highly recommend it , they each have their drawbacks and benefits so I keep both. But be warned, it can be addictive :(
http://www.myspace.com/professorsantos My myspace profile.
www.facebook.com After you log in just type Roman Santos in the search box, you will be directed to my profile.
http://www.myspace.com/professorsantos My myspace profile.
www.facebook.com After you log in just type Roman Santos in the search box, you will be directed to my profile.
Roman
OK so I am still trying to figure all this out but here are some pictures of my kids, this is my son Roman. He turns 6 in April
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
Update
Ok so I spent the better part of the last week taking care of my kids. My daughter had a stomach flu and was kind enough to pass it on to daddy. I've been puking all day. I just thought you would like to know.
Thursday, January 3, 2008
UGH!!
OK so after complaining about the driving abilities of New Yorkers I went and did a bonehead thing. As I pulled into my driveway I got too close to the edge and my car slipped off into the snow. The harder I tried to get out the further I slipped in.I guess I am now an official New Yorker
Natasha Senecal
I have a really good friend named Natasha who I met while I was working on my Masters at SDSU--she knows both my ex and myself. She is one of the few people that I have been able to talk to throughout this whole divorce bit and she happens to be a VERY talented musician. Well after a long night of sharing n stuff on the phone she wrote a song for me that basically expressed what I felt at the time--here is the chorus:
What if I had never been asked to dance?
What if I had never given you a second glance?
What if I had walked a way, would I still be here today?
What if I had waited for another?
What if I had never been asked to dance?
What if I had never given you a second glance?
What if I had walked a way, would I still be here today?
What if I had waited for another?
Quotes
Since my divorce I have found comfort and solace in different things. Here are a few quotes that I have enjoyed. Just to warn you though that some are in Spanish so if you want to know what they say--learn Spanish.
Mi primer día de paz será el ultimo del poder.
Parece que el demonio dirige las cosas de mi vida.
Allow the world to change you and you can change the world--Che Guevara
El vivir es dormir, y el morir es despertar.
OK well it looks like most of them are in Spanish :)
Mi primer día de paz será el ultimo del poder.
Parece que el demonio dirige las cosas de mi vida.
Allow the world to change you and you can change the world--Che Guevara
El vivir es dormir, y el morir es despertar.
OK well it looks like most of them are in Spanish :)
Old Intro
I spend quite a bit of time on my computer when I should be working so I figured this is at least semi productive right?I have 2 good friends from my past who keep blogs and I enjoy logging on and reading what is up with them so I figured this would serve as an update on my life to those who may care.I am originally from Southern California but I now live in Upstate New York. I am a Spanish professor at a local community college, a job that I thoroughly enjoy. At times I cannot believe that I actually get paid to do what I do. I teach which I love, I get to meet new people, I get time to do things that I enjoy, people think I must know a lot, so yeah it's a sweet deal.I am currently going through a divorce, after 7+ years of marriage and 3 kids my wife up and tells me one day that she is a lesbian--yup she only married me hoping that being with a man would help her get "over it" well it didn't so now I found myself back into this wonderful and confusing thing that is known as dating. At times I feel like Ross from "Friends"--of course this ain't as funny. Actually even though I still hurt my ex and I are good friends. We agreed that we would do what is best for the kids and set our feelings aside. Turns out we are actually pretty good friends (we sometimes even check out girls together) and I find that aside from the kids, we still have a lot to talk about and share with each other, which has been nice. As a matter of fact I picked out her outfit for her date last night :)Probably the best things that I have from all this are my children. I have three amazing kids; my daughter Rachel turns 7 this week, My son Roman is 5, and the baby Tommy will be 3 at the end of January.
Explanation
I had to create a new blog so it could be linked to all my google stuff. I've decided to try to get stuff organized and google seems to have all the necessary stuff.
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